When your girlfriend wants a break, it’s often just not a good sign.? One of the most common causes of a girl wanting to take a break is she is feeling smothered on some level.? I have so been there.? Sadly it’s the guys that bend over backwards for their girl that find themselves hearing the words, “I think we need to take a break”.? So what do you do when your girlfriend wants a break from the relationship?
Your instinct is most likely to fight it.? To convince her that you will give her more space.? This is a counterproductive approach.? This only makes you look a bit desperate and if she is already feeling a lack of attraction, this will only add to that lack, I promise.? It’s also telling her that what she wants, which is a break, is not what you care about.? What you care about is getting what you want, which is her to stay.
What you do when your girlfriend wants a break is agree with her.? Give her the space and leave her alone.? To do otherwise is simply just disrespectful and if you behave with anger, guilt tripping, a zillion questions, and trying to convince her otherwise, it shows your lack of self control.? It will just reinforce why she wants the break to start with and you end up pushing her further away.
I have a friend that a few months ago told her live in boyfriend of 4 years just this, she wanted a break.? He took it like a champ.? He didn’t resist.? He just wanted her to be happy and that is exactly what he told her as he packed his bags to leave.?? He didn’t beg, he didn’t plead, he gracefully exited the stage.? Guess who is now back together 2 months later?
In my last relationship, it didn’t go so well.? I asked for a break, after a long painful conversation, he eventually left, but continued to text me constantly.? He said he agreed to the break, yet his actions said something entirely different.? Several times a day he would text, he would stop by.? After the first week he insisted we talk. Were we ever getting back together? Did I love him?? If I loved him how could I do this to him?? Oh just ughh.? Man up please.
Some break I had.? He was just prolonging the break. The more he pushed the more turned off I became and yes, I did love this man.? Needless to say, I felt unheard and we never reunited.? One thing not to do when your girlfriend wants a break is to push her into getting your way.
If this is how you behave when a girl asks for a break, may I suggest she already senses this part of you that is dependent on her for your happiness and the part of you that wants your way regardless of what she wants, this is why she wants the break in the first place.
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